The Black & White of Fifty Shades of Grey

As Valentine’s Day approaches, many women will flock to their local theater to see Fifty Shades Darker, the sequel to the widely popular film and erotic book series Fifty Shades of Grey. There is a significant irony about linking a holiday about love and romance with a film that glorifies the use of BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism) through manipulation and coercion in a relationship.

While the Fifty Shades of Grey series is often categorized as a romance, it actually normalizes a very serious issue in today’s culture: sexual violence against women. Just like in mainstream pornography, the Fifty Shades…

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Running the Race for Gold

With the Olympics on our televisions every night, there’s been a lot of talk about several athletes breaking records for the number of medals being won by an athlete in a single Olympic games. Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps now has 28 medals over the course of four Olympics, of which 23 are gold. 23 gold medals! I read recently that if Michael Phelps were his own country, he would rank 59th as the most decorated country since the first summer Olympics held in 1898.

As for me, I have often said that if dropping my phone without it breaking were…

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Cue the Pomp & Circumstance

grad-hatI wanted to take just a moment to share with you about something pretty big happening in my life this week. I am graduating from Liberty University with a Bachelors of Science in Psychology degree: emphasis in addiction & recovery. At the age of 31, this is my first degree, but it has certainly been a long time coming.

In February 2009 at the age of 25, I founded Dirty Girls Ministries (DGM) out of my own experiences of overcoming pornography addiction and to provide a space for women to…

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Dirty Girls Come Clean Podcast: Episode 4

In Episode 4, hosts Crystal Renaud and Jenny Miller sit down with Hookers for Jesus founder Annie Lobert to discuss her new book “Fallen: Out of the Sex Industry & Into the Arms of the Savior“, her harrowing experience in human sex trafficking, and her participation in our upcoming WHOLE Women Weekend. In addition, we warn you about some provocative new television shows coming soon to your living room.

For complete show notes and to enter to win Annie’s book, click here.

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When Death is Enticing… Choose Life

By Crystal Renaud

I have but a few words add to the already very long dialogue taking place right now after the death of actor Robin Williams. I know not all will agree with me, but this is my truth based on my own experiences. Thanks for stopping by. 

When a tragedy like this happens many cry “mental illness!” and “depression!” as a way to try and understand. It is normal for people to scramble for answers to a senseless act. And because no one chooses the path of mental illness and it is a long-suffering battle, it makes sense and…

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Christian Grey Belongs in Jail, Not in Your Bedroom

I wasn’t going to write a blog post about the new Fifty Shades of Grey movie trailer because literally (and that “literally” is not exaggerated) everyone else has and we’ve already discussed the craze here and here. However, after actually viewing the trailer yesterday, I can’t get the following thought out of my mind:

“Christian Grey belongs in jail. Not in your bedroom.”

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Okay, so JAIL may be putting it strongly, but I don’t think I am too far off.

Perhaps it is because I was once the young, mousey girl taken advantage of by an…

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Your Kid is Watching Porn: A Word of Warning for Parents That’s Worth Sharing

Screen Shot 2014-07-10 at 12.19.26 AMI am not a parent. I am not even married. But it is no surprise that I was once a kid who encountered porn and became a porn-addicted teen. For me, it all began when I was just 10 years old.

This image is me at the age of 10… just a few months after the discovery of a pornographic magazine in my brother’s bathroom that catapulted me into an 8-year addiction to porn and other sexual behaviors. I show it to you so that you can see with…

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My (Likely) Unpopular Thoughts on World Vision

UPDATE 03/26/2014 – 4pm

What’s more difficult than making a controversial decision? Admitting you were wrong and reversing that decision. I am amazed at the change of heart by World Vision’s leadership with this latest statement: World Vision Reverses Decision To Hire Christians in Same-Sex Marriages

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When I started up with blogging again—one of the things I said I wanted to do was use my voice to speak boldly at a time in our culture when it seems easier to just speak what’s comfortable.

THAT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE.

I wish…

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DIRTY GIRLS COME CLEAN CAMPUS TOUR

There are few things I am more passionate about than seeing women freed from the shame and stronghold of porn and sexual addiction. And there is no audience I love to speak to more than high…

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Since Everyone Else is Talking About Anthony Wiener

People say he’s a pervert. People say he’s a bad husband. But Anthony Wiener is not that special. He just happens to be in a position where his indiscretions are plastered across news headlines.

The reality is we’re all just one poor decision away from the same fate.

In this day and age where it’s becoming increasingly more popular (ie. cool, funny) to nonchalantly send private material to boyfriends, friends and even strangers (otherwise known as sexting), there’s something we can all learn from the likes of Anthony Wiener:

What you believe you’re sharing privately probably won’t stay…

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