Christian Grey Belongs in Jail, Not in Your Bedroom

I wasn’t going to write a blog post about the new Fifty Shades of Grey movie trailer because literally (and that “literally” is not exaggerated) everyone else has and we’ve already discussed the craze here and here. However, after actually viewing the trailer yesterday, I can’t get the following thought out of my mind:

“Christian Grey belongs in jail. Not in your bedroom.”

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Okay, so JAIL may be putting it strongly, but I don’t think I am too far off.

Perhaps it is because I was once the young, mousey girl taken advantage of by an…

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Your Kid is Watching Porn: A Word of Warning for Parents That’s Worth Sharing

Screen Shot 2014-07-10 at 12.19.26 AMI am not a parent. I am not even married. But it is no surprise that I was once a kid who encountered porn and became a porn-addicted teen. For me, it all began when I was just 10 years old.

This image is me at the age of 10… just a few months after the discovery of a pornographic magazine in my brother’s bathroom that catapulted me into an 8-year addiction to porn and other sexual behaviors. I show it to you so that you can see with…

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Since Everyone Else is Talking About Anthony Wiener

People say he’s a pervert. People say he’s a bad husband. But Anthony Wiener is not that special. He just happens to be in a position where his indiscretions are plastered across news headlines.

The reality is we’re all just one poor decision away from the same fate.

In this day and age where it’s becoming increasingly more popular (ie. cool, funny) to nonchalantly send private material to boyfriends, friends and even strangers (otherwise known as sexting), there’s something we can all learn from the likes of Anthony Wiener:

What you believe you’re sharing privately probably won’t stay…

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Cleaning Up After the Elephants

We often get fixated on the elephant. The big pink elephants that stomp around the rooms of our lives. You know which ones I am talking about. It’s the ones that no one else likes to talk about. You step around it. You fix the things it breaks. Problem is pretty soon, you just can’t ignore it anymore.

So let’s say you get to that point. The rare occasion of acknowledging the elephant for what it is. What happens once we get the elephant out the door?

As you can imagine, elephants leave behind quite a mess. A path of destruction…

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One Word 2011: Ready

I have jumped on the bandwagon of One Word 2011.

My beautiful friend Alece Ronzino has challenged us to choose one word to focus on throughout the year. And hopefully learn and grow as a result of it.

While in the past I have lived by new year themes, I am loving this idea of choosing one word. One focus. One purpose.

My one word for 2011 is… Ready

If you read my post from earlier this week, then you know that I am embarking on a…

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Resolutions Aren’t Magical

I remember when I was an addict that a new year always meant an opportunity for a fresh start. I’d get all excited and say to myself that I’d never look at porn again.

As if the clock striking midnight was going to magically wipe away the years of bondage I’d been trapped in.

The years of shame.
The years of living in secret.
The years of filling old wounds with junk that would never satisfy.

And yet I believed it. I believed that making a decision based on tradition was going to magically change me—only to wake up on New Year’s Day just as…

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Agreeing with the Devil

My LifeGroup is currently reading, When Heaven Invades Earth by Bill Johnson. To be honest it is a challenging book even on some doctrinal levels for me. However, the other night I read this paragraph and it has been messing with me ever since. . .

. . . in a good way.

“Satan didn’t come into the Garden of Eden violently and take possession of the Adam and Eve. He wouldn’t! Why? He had no dominion there. Dominion empowers. And since man was given the keys of dominion over the planet, the devil would have to get his authority…

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My Biggest Addiction Isn’t to Porn

For as long as I can remember I have had an issue with pride.

I can remember back to the 4th grade when I was given a solo in the school Christmas program. I was all jazzed about getting to sing my heart out with my very own microphone. But then the week of the program, my music teacher decided she wanted another girl to sing with me.

A duet.

Even on the night of the program I remember pushing myself ever closer (and pushing her further away) to the microphone so that my voice would carry over hers. After all, I…

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Could He Take Away My High School Diploma?

Addiction recovery is a continuous process. No matter if it is day 1 or day 2,290 of our recovery we must choose daily to surrender to God, confess to others, accept accountability, take responsibility for what we do and share our story.

Hmm, those steps would fit nicely into a book – perhaps in an acronym of some kind 😉

Even 8 years into my own recovery I am still engaged in the process and today I took responsibility for something I did 10 years ago. The following letter began as a letter to my 4th grade teacher about a writing assignment I lied about completing (sort…

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