When Death is Enticing… Choose Life

By Crystal Renaud

I have but a few words add to the already very long dialogue taking place right now after the death of actor Robin Williams. I know not all will agree with me, but this is my truth based on my own experiences. Thanks for stopping by. 

When a tragedy like this happens many cry “mental illness!” and “depression!” as a way to try and understand. It is normal for people to scramble for answers to a senseless act. And because no one chooses the path of mental illness and it is a long-suffering battle, it makes sense and…

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Christian Grey Belongs in Jail, Not in Your Bedroom

I wasn’t going to write a blog post about the new Fifty Shades of Grey movie trailer because literally (and that “literally” is not exaggerated) everyone else has and we’ve already discussed the craze here and here. However, after actually viewing the trailer yesterday, I can’t get the following thought out of my mind:

“Christian Grey belongs in jail. Not in your bedroom.”

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Okay, so JAIL may be putting it strongly, but I don’t think I am too far off.

Perhaps it is because I was once the young, mousey girl taken advantage of by an…

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Your Kid is Watching Porn: A Word of Warning for Parents That’s Worth Sharing

Screen Shot 2014-07-10 at 12.19.26 AMI am not a parent. I am not even married. But it is no surprise that I was once a kid who encountered porn and became a porn-addicted teen. For me, it all began when I was just 10 years old.

This image is me at the age of 10… just a few months after the discovery of a pornographic magazine in my brother’s bathroom that catapulted me into an 8-year addiction to porn and other sexual behaviors. I show it to you so that you can see with…

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My (Likely) Unpopular Thoughts on World Vision

UPDATE 03/26/2014 – 4pm

What’s more difficult than making a controversial decision? Admitting you were wrong and reversing that decision. I am amazed at the change of heart by World Vision’s leadership with this latest statement: World Vision Reverses Decision To Hire Christians in Same-Sex Marriages

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When I started up with blogging again—one of the things I said I wanted to do was use my voice to speak boldly at a time in our culture when it seems easier to just speak what’s comfortable.

THAT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE.

I wish…

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I’m Hiring! Part-Time Assistant to Start Immediately…

I am excited to announce that I am hiring a part-time assistant. This is a paid position and candidate should expect 10-15 hours a month. Below is a general job description. This is a virtual position so access to your own computer/internet connection as well as phone/text is required. Interviews will be conducted over Skype.

Please note that while this position is not directly related to Dirty Girls Ministries, candidates should anticipate overlap and be comfortable discussing/reading issues related to pornography and sexual addiction. Candidates should also model a Christ-like lifestyle and attitude of sexual integrity that is reflective…

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On Being the Church’s Third Wheel

the-third-wheelThe month of February means red, white & pink bouquets, chalky heart-shaped candies, discounts on dating sites and of course… a marriage series at every church in America. 

Being single or divorced in the Church during the month of February is like being at the kid’s table on Thanksgiving. A marriage series is cute and all, but it’s not enough to simply say, “store this away for later” to the non-marrieds in the crowd—while carrying on with four solid weeks on how to be a better husband, a better wife or for you…

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The Fraudulent Waters of Baptism

When I was in the throes of my addiction to pornography, it was very important to me that I appeared like I had everything together. That my life wasn’t run by my flesh, but that I loved God so much that every move I made and every word I spoke reflected Him. But in striving to do this, I skipped steps of faith and even lied to keep up the appearance.

Take my baptism, for example.

I was fifteen years old and had just started attending a new church with my mom. I found myself at youth group at the invitation…

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Some Sort of Catchy Title to Get Your Attention…

So it would seem that I am sticking my toes back into the waters of blogging. I am no stranger to this land, but it’s been a long time. 

For those who don’t know and that’s probably most of you—for seven years straight back in the early-mid 2000s, I blogged on Xanga, Typepad and eventually WordPress, running my own little piece of internet real estate, as I masqueraded around as PinkHairedGirl.

In early 2010, I said goodbye to not only my pink locks, but also to blogging. 

Why? I felt as if I had lost my identity in the pseudonym and took a step back to work…

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