The Black & White of Fifty Shades of Grey

As Valentine’s Day approaches, many women will flock to their local theater to see Fifty Shades Darker, the sequel to the widely popular film and erotic book series Fifty Shades of Grey. There is a significant irony about linking a holiday about love and romance with a film that glorifies the use of BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism) through manipulation and coercion in a relationship.

While the Fifty Shades of Grey series is often categorized as a romance, it actually normalizes a very serious issue in today’s culture: sexual violence against women. Just like in mainstream pornography, the Fifty Shades…

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Agreeing with the Devil

My LifeGroup is currently reading, When Heaven Invades Earth by Bill Johnson. To be honest it is a challenging book even on some doctrinal levels for me. However, the other night I read this paragraph and it has been messing with me ever since. . .

. . . in a good way.

“Satan didn’t come into the Garden of Eden violently and take possession of the Adam and Eve. He wouldn’t! Why? He had no dominion there. Dominion empowers. And since man was given the keys of dominion over the planet, the devil would have to get his authority…

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Where Did “PinkHairedGirl” Go?

My single greatest takeaway from Echo Conference was Rhett Smith’s breakout on “Not Losing Yourself in Social Media.”

About six months ago I left my old blog ( behind to focus solely on Dirty Girls Ministries. But I kept “pinkhairedgirl” on Twitter because it is a name that people knew and I didn’t want to lose that draw. Even at the conference people seemed to know me first as “PinkHairedGirl” before they really knew my name.

The problem with that is I am not PinkHairedGirl. But I had become lost in her. My identity was being found in how others…

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Fill in the Blank

I put  __________ before my relationship with Jesus Christ.

Answer anonymously, if you’d like.

2 Corinthians 5:15, “Christ died on behalf of many in order that the ones who live might no longer live for themselves, but for the one who died on their behalf and was raised again.”

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Growing Old Sucks

I am entering new territory.

On Friday, my grandma was released from the hospital following complications during knee surgery. And was battling pneumonia. She is now home and unable to walk (or is cognitively refusing to walk).

My dad went down to help my grandpa take care of her upon returning home.

However, on Sunday night my grandpa broke down in tears before my dad telling him that he is simply unable to take care for her on his own anymore. So now my grandpa, my dad and his siblings are having to make the impossibly difficult decision regarding nursing home care…

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It is Monday and that usually means a slow day in the office. So I decided to be proactive with the time I had and do a little spring cleaning. This entailed cleaning out file folders on my computer, including old email.

It has been years since I have really cleaned out my email folders.

Unfortunately, I used to be something of a hoarder and created many subfolders to keep everything. I haven’t even touched these folders in a number of years. For whatever reason, I just stopped using them. Bear in mind that I was only 19 when I started working here and…

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The Real Me

Inspired by Anne’s video and this experiment from POTSC, here’s the real me:

(RSS & Facebookers, there’s a video here. Come check it out.)

The real me is missing half an eyebrow because of a waxing mishap several years ago.

The real me doesn’t like to smile with my teeth because they aren’t super white.

The real me has really dry skin, with acne on my chin and around my lower lip.

The real me has a persistent chin hair that I have to…

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I have been watching a little bit of the NBC hoopla over Jay Leno/Conan O’Brien.

Apparently their Leno experiment epically failed in affiliate ratings and advertiser interests and it was cancelled. His last show will air before the Winter Olympics begin.

Leno is still a popular guy… just not at 9pm.

So now, NBC wants Leno and O’Brien to share the Tonight Show time slot (after local news)—with Leno on for 30 minutes and O’Brien following Leno with an hour show. There’s some speculation that O’Brien will jump ship to FOX—who has always wanted to compete with the other networks with own…

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Praying for Boldness

I know that if I pray for boldness, God won’t just give me boldness.
He will provide opportunities for me to act boldly.

And that is terrifying to me because:

What if my act of boldness ruins a friendship?
What if my act of boldness changes how others view me?
What if my act of boldness gets me fired?

I talk a big game but at the end of the day, I am a coward and still fear the “what if.” I know these opportunities for boldness are also opportunities to trust Him. So, I guess the bigger question comes down to, “What if I…

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If My Heart Could Speak for Itself

Most of you know I battle depression—this is the thorn in my side (2 Corinthians 12:6-10) God has asked me to bear. To bear so He can boast in my weakness and to bear so I can trust in Him to deliver me. And I know there is a great story in all of this just waiting to be revealed as well.

But right now, depression and I are dancing again.

I am hurting; feeling defeated and depleted.

But thankfully this season isn’t as bad as the last.

Or so it seems.

Unfortunately for me, I am a stuffer. I stuff and stuff…

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