Christian Grey Belongs in Jail, Not in Your Bedroom

I wasn’t going to write a blog post about the new Fifty Shades of Grey movie trailer because literally (and that “literally” is not exaggerated) everyone else has and we’ve already discussed the craze here and here. However, after actually viewing the trailer yesterday, I can’t get the following thought out of my mind:

“Christian Grey belongs in jail. Not in your bedroom.”

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Okay, so JAIL may be putting it strongly, but I don’t think I am too far off.

Perhaps it is because I was once the young, mousey girl taken advantage of by an older, stronger man, but the appeal of Christian Grey is totally lost on me. In fact, if I ran into him in the grocery store aisle (or I think a dark alley would be more fitting), I would probably pretend I got a phone call and walk the other direction...

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Your Kid is Watching Porn: A Word of Warning for Parents That’s Worth Sharing

Screen Shot 2014-07-10 at 12.19.26 AMI am not a parent. I am not even married. But it is no surprise that I was once a kid who encountered porn and became a porn-addicted teen. For me, it all began when I was just 10 years old.

This image is me at the age of 10… just a few months after the discovery of a pornographic magazine in my brother’s bathroom that catapulted me into an 8-year addiction to porn and other sexual behaviors. I show it to you so that you can see with your own eyes, what 10 years old really looks like. I think in today’s culture of kids growing up too fast we forget how young this really is.

Nearly 20 years later we know that pornography has only become more mainstream, easier to find… and to hide...

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My (Likely) Unpopular Thoughts on World Vision

UPDATE 03/26/2014 – 4pm

What’s more difficult than making a controversial decision? Admitting you were wrong and reversing that decision. I am amazed at the change of heart by World Vision’s leadership with this latest statement: World Vision Reverses Decision To Hire Christians in Same-Sex Marriages

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When I started up with blogging again—one of the things I said I wanted to do was use my voice to speak boldly at a time in our culture when it seems easier to just speak what’s comfortable.

THAT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE.

I wish it were as safe for Christians to speak out against controversial issues as they seem to be able to in support of them. But it’s not safe. If I were to write a post or tweet or whatever about how much I disagreed with World Vision’s deci...

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I’m Hiring! Part-Time Assistant to Start Immediately…

I am excited to announce that I am hiring a part-time assistant. This is a paid position and candidate should expect 10-15 hours a month. Below is a general job description. This is a virtual position so access to your own computer/internet connection as well as phone/text is required. Interviews will be conducted over Skype.

Please note that while this position is not directly related to Dirty Girls Ministries, candidates should anticipate overlap and be comfortable discussing/reading issues related to pornography and sexual addiction. Candidates should also model a Christ-like lifestyle and attitude of sexual integrity that is reflective of our team. 

Duties Include
• Email maintenance
• Calendar management
• Networking
• Coordination of speaking events
• Lead generation
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On Being the Church’s Third Wheel

the-third-wheelThe month of February means red, white & pink bouquets, chalky heart-shaped candies, discounts on dating sites and of course… a marriage series at every church in America. 

Being single or divorced in the Church during the month of February is like being at the kid’s table on Thanksgiving. A marriage series is cute and all, but it’s not enough to simply say, “store this away for later” to the non-marrieds in the crowd—while carrying on with four solid weeks on how to be a better husband, a better wife or for you more “relevant” churches… how to have a better sex life.

It may be shocking to learn (and you may want to sit down for this), but the singles in your church are not waiting around for marriage in order to start their lives and to live out God’s purpose for them. And if they are...

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The Fraudulent Waters of Baptism

When I was in the throes of my addiction to pornography, it was very important to me that I appeared like I had everything together. That my life wasn’t run by my flesh, but that I loved God so much that every move I made and every word I spoke reflected Him. But in striving to do this, I skipped steps of faith and even lied to keep up the appearance.

Take my baptism, for example.

I was fifteen years old and had just started attending a new church with my mom. I found myself at youth group at the invitation of a high school friend where the message of the evening was about baptism. It was your typical baptism talk on how the next step for a believer was to publicly profess their faith decision.

But what I heard was if I did this baptism thingy, then it would prove that I was who I was pret...

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Some Sort of Catchy Title to Get Your Attention…

So it would seem that I am sticking my toes back into the waters of blogging. I am no stranger to this land, but it’s been a long time. 

For those who don’t know and that’s probably most of you—for seven years straight back in the early-mid 2000s, I blogged on Xanga, Typepad and eventually WordPress, running my own little piece of internet real estate, as I masqueraded around as PinkHairedGirl.

In early 2010, I said goodbye to not only my pink locks, but also to blogging. 

Why? I felt as if I had lost my identity in the pseudonym and took a step back to work on myself—to grow and heal in areas that I didn’t realize were broken. I broke up with friends and even my church as God did a work in me—and yes it was painful. But as A.W. Tozer says in The Pursuit of God about God’s...

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DIRTY GIRLS COME CLEAN CAMPUS TOUR

There are few things I am more passionate about than seeing women freed from the shame and stronghold of porn and sexual addiction. And there is no audience I love to speak to more than high school and college girls.

Why? Because I was once a teenaged turned college girl addicted to pornography. I personally and intimately understand the shame and isolation of this addiction. Click here to learn more about me.

Five years ago, God placed a fire within me to bring female pornography and sexual addiction to light and provided the immense opportunity of having my book Dirty Girls Come Clean published by Moody Publishers...

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Since Everyone Else is Talking About Anthony Wiener

People say he’s a pervert. People say he’s a bad husband. But Anthony Wiener is not that special. He just happens to be in a position where his indiscretions are plastered across news headlines.

The reality is we’re all just one poor decision away from the same fate.

In this day and age where it’s becoming increasingly more popular (ie. cool, funny) to nonchalantly send private material to boyfriends, friends and even strangers (otherwise known as sexting), there’s something we can all learn from the likes of Anthony Wiener:

What you believe you’re sharing privately probably won’t stay private.

Messages can inadvertently be sent to the wrong person. Phones can be stolen. Boyfriends/Girlfriends come and go (but will still have your pictures)...

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What if We’re Single on Purpose?

The following post is adapted from some notes of a message I gave last year on singleness. And shocker… I am actually single and not a married woman sharing about how hard it is to be single and how sorry I am that you’re still single. Yeah, I’ve read those posts and heard those messages too. Lately, you, the single woman like me, have been on my heart. Perhaps it’s the holidays. Perhaps it’s because I am inching closer to 30. I don’t know. I just thought it was time to share this post. I am not saying this will make you feel better about your current Facebook marital status. But I hope it does give you some encouragement on the journey…

Crystal Renaud
Founder & Executive Director
WHOLE Women Ministries
Dirty Girls Ministries

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